How To Harness the Power of Saying No

Episode 71

Published on:

1st Oct 2019

How To Harness the Power of Saying No

If you harness the power of saying no you can avoid the problem of over-committing. That's when you make a commitment. Then you make another. Before you know it, you're making yet another commitment. It’s a never-ending cycle.

You overcommit to your job, your friends, colleagues, social causes, family, etc. These commitments add hundreds of hours and stress to your already over-scheduled life.

One of the most important things to remember is that time is finite. No matter how hard you try, you'll never have enough time to do everything. However, once you truly accept that you can't do it all, you can begin to prioritize your time.

Doing this gives more opportunities to do the things that you really want to do, rather than the things that you feel you should do. Spending quality time with family and friends, achieving goals to improve your future, and just having time to yourself are prime examples.

In this episode I look at:

  • The benefits of saying no
  • How saying no helps you be more successful
  • Why women don't say no
  • How saying no is easier when you're confident
  • How to determine when you should say no
  • How to say at work
  • Ways to say no everywhere

Saying no won't be easy at first. For some people, it may never be simple, but you have your own health and well-being to consider. The people who care about you will more than likely understand. When dealing with acquaintances, if they don't understand, it's probably better to limit your time with them, if possible.

Remember, saying no does not make you a bad or selfish person. On the contrary, it generally makes you healthier and happier. More importantly, saying no doesn't mean you can't help those who you really want to help. After all, everyone needs help at one time or another. In the words of Tim Ferriss, "What you don't do determines what you can do." It's totally up to you!

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Podcast on setting healthy boundaries

Punch Fear in the Throat Mug

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Your Confident Self
Career and Life Coaching for Women
Allegra Sinclair is a life and confidence coach. The Your Confident Self Podcast focuses on increasing self-confidence and self-esteem and helping you reclaim your life. Each episode provides tips and motivation for helping women be their most powerful selves and do work they love.

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Allegra Sinclair

Allegra Sinclair is a professional coach and confidence expert. She hates to see women living small and loves to help them change how they show up in the world.